I've been doing readings on and off for over 30 years, and trust me, I've been asked it all--from what color socks should I wear to my interview, to what's going to happen next week on 'Days of Our Lives.' Sometimes it's hard not to be a smartass in those situations, because who the hell pays money to an astrologer to find out what is going to happen in make-believe? There are always going to be 'those' people, and yeah, dealing with them is just part of the gig. For everyone else, though, here's some tips on getting a good reading from your astrologer, tarot reader, or other intuitive.
1) Know what you're buying.
You wouldn't go to a gynecologist with a toothache, so don't go to an astrologer wanting palmistry. Yes, many readers are diverse (for example, my fortes are astrology, tarot, runes, and crystals). You may find that a palm reader also reads cards, or that an astrologer also does numerology, but find this out before you make your appointment or pay your money. That will save both you and your reader time, money, and frustration. A reputable reader will soon admit that he or she cannot do what you're asking of them. That's why it's important to choose someone of trustworthy character. Go with someone recommended to you, or ask for references and credentials.
2) Don't sabotage yourself.
If the only thing you want to hear is the winning numbers to the next Hoosier Lottery, you're probably going to be mad at your reader when he or she does not tell them to you. If we could do that, do you think we'd be working for a living?! Don't waste your money or the reader's time. Now, if you want to know how to draw more abundance into your life, or ways that you can improve your finances, that's different. We can do that. Miracles are someone else's domain.
3) Avoid asking 'what will I do?'
Hmm, well, what will you do? Your free will is your birthright. The planets influence you. The tarot gives you a glimpse as to what might happen. You could ask 'Am I going to marry Bobby,' and everything could point to yes--but you could leave the reading thinking, "I'll show her and her predictions," dump Bobby, join a convent, and make your reader the biggest liar on the planet! Reputable readers are not going to tell you what you're going to do. They will tell you the influences around you, but what you do with that information is entirely your decision.
4) Be a participant, not an observer.
So many clients will sit there and play 'test the psychic.' They don't want to reveal anything, but that's like going into the doctor's office and playing 'guess what's wrong with me. If your reader is asking you for more information, it is to help them to better help you. They'll take your answer and look into your chart or your cards or whatever, to bring you back clarity and insight. If you want to play 'test the psychic,' visit the seaside fortune tellers, not your astrologer or professional intuitive.
5) Keep an open mind.
You've gone to that reader because he or she is experienced astrology or tarot or whatever, and you have questions about your life. If you have a preconceived idea as to how things are supposed to unfold, then you're shooting yourself in the foot before you start. There are three participants in your reading; you, your reader, and the energy that is created. That energy won't flow freely if you're trying to discipline or control it because you're not being told what you want to hear. If you're absolutely certain that your ex is going to leave his new wife and family and return to you before the next full moon, then you don't need a reading, so why even ask?
A bit of preparation on your part will go a long way to getting a good reading from your chosen psychic, astrologer, or cartomancer (fancy way of saying card reader). Find one with whom you resonate and with whom you feel comfortable, find one who uses the tools you request (you've no idea how many times I've seen people go to an astrologer, and then complain that they got an astrology reading rather than having their fortune told), be open minded, know what you want to ask, and be receptive to the answer.